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How can I lengthen the time it takes me to cum?

Anyone can learn ejaculatory control. However, it does take time, practise and perseverance.

Part of the solution is to learn about your limits - your "point of inevitability" - and to stop or change stimulation before that point is reached.

Perhaps the most important skill to learn is to "switch off" any performance anxieties - to become as passive as you can - and allow the experience to happen to you, rather than attempting to control it.

Try varying your sexual contact so that ejaculation is not such an important issue. Either alone or with a partner, try massage-like approaches to sex that allow you to explore one another's bodies.

As you learn to relax, the length of time it takes you to ejaculate becomes less of a problem. If sometimes you cum a little faster than you perhaps wanted, at other times it may take a longer time.